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The Three Tools
OVERVIEW OF TECHNIQUES
Over many years I have found specific skills and practices essential for learning about inner processes, changing behaviour in a deep way and in releasing old patterns. In combination, these have transformed my process of healing. If you have been reading self-development books, going to seminars, and are still feeling frustrated with a lack of progress, it may well be due to some missing skills. Those skills that enable the application and integration of your learning. The techniques I am referring to, are simple and available. You may have heard of all of them and have used some of them. However, it is the combination and application of them that provides the leverage in shifting blocks and moving through issues more effectively.
The techniques are:
• journaling (Read more...)
• focusing (Read more...)
• emotional freedom technique (Read more...)
These three techniques are processes for reflection, unpacking and releasing past and current issues. While these techniques are simple in concept, we are dealing with the most complex system in the world, the human being. When you are working from inside out, with all of the subjectivity and complexity of the human psyche, the process is even more challenging. These skills underpin the development process and the cycle we typically go through to learn. Some of us will have learned these skills as we grew up but most won’t.
As well as explaining these skills and how to develop and apply them, I also want to give you some self-development maps and models. Although they are just ways of thinking about how we function, and are not ‘the truth’ or the only way, they are helpful. I am not sure where the saying came from but it is relevant to this process.
“The map is not the territory”
Models and maps can both expand and limit our thinking and that is one of the things we need to challenge when learning. Albert Einstein, a famous and highly successful thinker and scientist is quoted as saying:
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
So when we come to deal with our accumulated knowing, behaviour and attitudes, it is necessary to develop different ways of thinking about ourselves and how we function in the world. For instance, if someone identified that he had become too negative and judgemental, part of his first stage of changing this, would involve learning both how he was currently negative and how positive thinking would look, sound and feel different. Otherwise he will spend unnecessary time beating himself up for being negative because that is how he currently operates.
One of the prime issues for self-development is that when people begin to learn a new skill, they often don’t give themselves adequate time to learn. It take six months to fully integrate any new skill or behaviour. We sometimes have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and while we understand something with our minds, applying and developing of the skill requires consistent effort.
This book isn’t about a single simple answer. We are profoundly complex beings, and learning arises from reflection on past and current issues, the practice of skills, absorbing new ideas, and being stimulated and challenged. You will find as you begin learning these skills, that one in particular will be more central to your development process. The other skills will become integrated through that core skill. At this point however, let us get on with identifying and learning these skills. Journaling, focusing, and EFT or Meridian Tapping are all skills for developing, healing and recreating the inner self. They are the means of bringing forth into our awareness the thoughts, images, words and feelings we experience everyday so we can choose to keep or change them.
They are essential skills to reflecting on our experience and the resultant thinking and functioning, that may need to change.
They also enable us to release emotions, find the silent space of the spirit and integrate ourselves. We often live our lives in compartments and roles, and this can lead to a sense of disjointedness and emptiness. In addition the consumer society promotes the pursuit of material satisfactions and this means living in the outer world. We cannot live like this. We are organic and complex beings and need to find our inner path to live sustainably.
Journaling is the practice of setting down in words and/or pictures on paper on an on-going basis, reflections on daily events, expression of clouded or overwhelming feelings, dream analysis, visualisation results, meditation peaks & troughs, choices, life history review, inner prompting, and inner dialogues. The journal has always been considered a great way to see the repeating patterns of our behaviour, thinking and feeling, and these are the clues to the inner experience and unconscious triggers.
Focusing is the practice of becoming aware of your body wisdom and the inbuilt felt senses so you can engage with and release emotions and pain. It is a gentle placing of awareness and attention into the body and respecting the feelings as messages from your body wisdom. Major shifts in functioning, better decision-making and integration of different voices into your life processes are available through this process.
Emotional Freedom Technique or Meridian Tapping is a tapping protocol on specific acupuncture Meridian end points to remove the emotional charge from painful past experiences and traumas. These experiences are the underpinning drivers and triggers for dysfunctional behaviour and reactions to life events.
EFT is being used by practitioners and individuals across the world for childhood abuse, sexual and war traumas, anxiety and depression, as well as many physical symptoms.
Clearly there is more to all of these techniques, and I will explore them in detail in the following chapters and provide clear instructions on developing the skills.
WHAT IS ENERGY PSYCHOLOGY?
Energy psychology (EP) is a collection of mind-body approaches for understanding and improving human functioning. EP focuses on the relationship between thoughts, emotions, sensations, and behaviours, and known bioenergy systems (such as meridians and the biofield). These systems and processes exist, and interact, within individuals and between people. They are also influenced by cultural and environmental factors.
Within an EP framework, emotional and physical issues are seen, and treated, as bio-energetic patterns within a mind-body-energy system. The mind and body are thought to be interwoven and interactive within this mind-body-energy system, which involves complex communication involving neurobiological processes, innate electrophysiology, psychoneuroimmunology (PNI), consciousness, and cognitive-behavioural-emotional patterns.
The use of EP has resulted in the development of associated methods and models to treat psychological and emotional problems, facilitate health and wellbeing, and improve human performance. These models and methods are usually used within an integrative or holistic approach to practices such as psychotherapy, counselling, coaching, integrative medicine, and other healing modalities.
Applications of Energy Psychology
EP applications incorporate natural energetic components into the treatment process that include, but are not limited to, meridians, chakras, biofields, and bio-electrical and electromagnetic activity of the body, the nervous system and the heart. EP practitioners often combine cognitive and physical interventions with activation of one or more of the human bio-energy systems. Some practitioners focus on the way in which thought and intention are expressed in the bioenergy system, and explore the therapeutic value of precise use of language and congruent intention. EP approaches adapt and integrate easily into most psychotherapy models, healthcare orientations, and models of performance enhancement. EP approaches are often exceedingly rapid, have little to no adverse effects, are usually experienced as self-empowering by clients and patients, and are easily amenable to self-help protocols.
In the clinical world, EP models have been beneficially applied to assessment and treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, pain, stress, psychophysiological issues, and self-sabotaging behaviours by a broad range of healthcare providers, to regulate affect and promote emotional and physical health. Treatment results have been shown to be enduring and relatively rapid. There are currently over 100 research studies, including 50 randomized controlled trials (RCT) published in professional and refereed journals, confirming the treatment value of EP. Taken as a body of knowledge, these findings suggest that EP meets the criteria for evidenced-based treatment. In fact, in 2016, TFT (Thought Field Therapy) was validated by NREPP (the National Repertory of Evidence Based Practices and Procedures, a division of SAMHSA in the U.S.) as an evidence-based treatment.
In the coaching and performance world, EP models have been beneficially applied in many areas of performance enhancement including sports, education, business, and lifestyle issues related to weight management, relationships, and finance.
The Growth of EP: Integrating EP into Multiple Areas of Application
Historically, EP methods integrate concepts and techniques from related fields, including acupuncture meridian theory, neuroscience, physics/quantum mechanics, biology, medicine, chiropractic, and psychology to facilitate change. Since the 1970s, these methods have been further developed, refined, and supported via clinical experience and research across multiple areas of application. For example, EP methods have been beneficially integrated into the psychotherapy process, nursing, medicine, coaching, athletics, and education.
Links to online resources
|10 Journaling Tips to Help You Heal, Grow and Thrive||https://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-journaling-tips-to-help-you-heal-grow-and-thrive/|
|What is EFT? The Origins and Background||http://www.theenergytherapycentre.co.uk/eft-explained.htm|
|What Is Energy Psychology?||More...|
|Selected References in Energy Psychology||More...|
|Science behind Energy Psychology|